Getting Married in 3 Patrons Parish
When a couple have become engaged and wish to plan a Church wedding we invite you to make initial contact with the parish office, 01-4972215.
A meeting will then be arranged to give you the opportunity to meet with one of the priests of the parish to discuss your plans.
Families are welcome to invite a priest friend or family member to celebrate the wedding ceremony.
The usual way in which we prepare for marriage is a five step process:
1. An initial meeting with the priest and couple to discuss marriage as a sacrament and the needs of the couple.
2. A meeting to prepare the Pre Nuptial Enquiry, this is a pastoral conversation that ensures that all things necessary for marriage are in place.
3. A meeting to prepare the Liturgy, the Nuptial Rite can be celebrated within a Eucharistic or as a separate sacrament.
4. A Rehearsal at a convenient time close to the wedding.
5. Finally the wedding celebration.
Getting Married in Church
In 2004 the Oireachtas passed the Civil Registration Act, part of which dealt with the Registration of Marriages. The purpose of this Act was to have a single procedure for the notification and registration of marriages which would modernise and simplify the existing legislation.
The following guidelines are designed to be read in conjunction with the Booklet issued by the General Register Office “Marriage Provisions of the Civil Registration Act, 2004: Notes for Religious Solemnisers”. The new civil requirements are outlined in that booklet. The following guidelines apply and insert these requirements into Church practice.
Getting Married In The Catholic Church – What Is Needed?
The first thing a couple needs to do is to contact the local parish clergy. The church where they wish to marry must be booked. The PreNuptial Inquiry Forms should be completed, for which the following are required:
- baptism and confirmation certificates;
- proof of freedom to marry;
- marriage preparation certificate;
- permissions and dispensations where applicable;
- if either party has been previously married, it is essential that freedom to marry be established before any marriage arrangements are confirmed.
What Changes Are Being Made?
There are no changes to the church requirements for couples getting married. However, some developments are taking place affecting the civil registration of marriage.
When Do The New Practices Come Into Effect?
They became legal requirements on 5 November 2007.
What Are The Principal Changes In The New Requirements?
The 3 most important changes are:
- the couple takes greater responsibility for the civil registration of their marriage;
- the couple makes a declaration of no civil impediment;
- priests 1 in order to officiate at a marriage, must be on the “List of Solemnisers” submitted by each local Bishop to the Registrar General
The priest who officiates at a wedding is –from the perspective of civil law – known as a the “Solemniser” of the marriage.
1. First Change
COUPLES TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR CIVIL REGISTRATION
- When the couple meets the priest in the parish, both parties should be made aware of the need to make an appointment to meet with any civil registrar in person to give notice of the intention to marry. This meeting must take place at least 3 months before the wedding in order to comply with the civil requirement. The couple will need to know that the church is available prior to this meeting and the name of the priest who will ‘solemnise’ the marriage.
- The couple will be required to bring the following documentation to the registrar’s office:
- photo identity (preferably a passport or driving license);
- names and dates of birth of witnesses;
- name of church where they wish to be married;
- date of marriage;
- name of the priest who will officiate at the marriage; this presumes that the celebrant is a registered solemniser and that he has agreed to officiate at the marriage;
- if either party has been previously married, the civil registrar must be provided with an original divorce decree or a death certificate if widowed.
- When all the civil requirements have been completed satisfactorily the couple will receive, from the registrar, a Marriage Registration Form (MRF). This document replaces the current form. Without this form the couple cannot get married nor may the solemniser proceed with the marriage ceremony. Without the Marriage Registration Form the couple cannot get married nor may the solemniser proceed with the marriage ceremony.
- The solemniser and the parish priest of the place of marriage will receive a notification from the civil registrar’s office concerning the marriage due to take place.
- The couple must present the MRF to the solemniser before the wedding so that he can check that the details are correct before the marriage takes place. This should be done as early as is convenient.
- If changes are necessary – for instance, changing the name of the solemniser – the couple should be advised to contact the civil registrar to arrange for the reissue of the MRF at the earliest possible stage before the ceremony.
- After the wedding, the solemniser must ensure that the MRF is signed by the couple, the two witnesses and himself.
- After the marriage has been celebrated, it is the responsibility of the couple (not the local priest or solemniser) to return the MRF to any Registrar’s Office. This form must be returned within one month of the marriage. The Marriage Registration Form must be returned by the couple within one month of the marriage.
2. Second Change
Verbal Declaration Of No Civil Impediment
- The solemniser must ask the couple to make a verbal declaration of no civil impediment.
- This declaration should be made not more than two days before the wedding.
- It is the recommended practice that this declaration be made at the beginning of the wedding, when the bride and groom arrive at the sanctuary.
3. Third Change
List Of Solemnisers
- The priest who officiates at the marriage is called the “solemniser”.
- In order to officiate at a marriage priests must be on the “List of Solemnisers” submitted by each local Bishop to the RegistrarGeneral.
- If the priest, whom the couple has chosen to officiate at its marriage, is not a priest of the parish, it is important for the local priest to make the couple aware that he must be a registered solemniser.
- If the priest is not on the List of Solemnisers, and wishes to officiate at a marriage, he must become a temporary solemniser. He can do this by submitting a request to the Bishop of the place of marriage together with an appropriate Testimonial Letter signed by his Ordinary (i.e. Bishop of Provincial Superior). If the priest is incardinated into the diocese in which the marriage is to take place, he needs simply to request this from his Bishop.
- For the canonical validity of the marriage, a visiting solemniser will need to receive delegation as heretofore.
Where Can Catholic Marriages Take Place
The proper and ordinary place of the celebration of a catholic marriage continues to be the parish church(es) (cann 115 & 1118). All existing diocesan policies with regard to the place of marriage will remain the same; so too in relation to the time and day on which marriages can take place. The solemniser and the couple must comply with these diocesan regulations. If a solemniser does not comply with civil or church requirements, he can be removed from the List of Solemnisers.
Where Can I Find More Information
The information in this leaflet should read in conjunction with the booklet issues by the General Register Office “Marriage Provisions of the Civil Registration Act, 2004: Notes for Religious Solemnisers”. Information may also be found at www.groireland.ie
What The Solemniser Needs To Do
- make sure he is on the List of Solemnisers:
- if he is not on the list, he must become a Temporary Solemniser;
- ensure that the couple have received the Marriage Registration Form (MRF) before the wedding takes place;
- check that all details on the MRF are correct;
- make sure that the couple makes the verbal declaration of no civil impediment in the presence of the two witnesses and himself;
- ensure that the MRF is signed by the couple, two witnesses and himself;
- comply with all diocesan regulations regarding the time and place of marriage
What The Parish Clergy Needs To Do
- complete the PreNuptial Inquiry Forms in the usual manner;
- inform the couple of the requirements to meet the civil registrar at least 3 months before the wedding to give notice of their intention to marry;
- inform the couple that the priest they have chosen must be on the List of the Solemnisers;
- give delegation to the visiting solemniser as heretofore.
What The Couple Must Do
- meet one of the local parish church clergy;
- book the church where they wish to marry;
- meet a civil registrar at least 3 months before the wedding to give notice of their intention to marry;
- receive the Marriage Registration Form (MRF) from the civil registrar;
- bring the MRF to the solemniser;
- make the verbal declaration of no civil impediment not more that 2 days beforehand;
- return the signed MRF to any civil registrar not later than 1 month after the wedding.